When you’re married, it seems like all you do is work to pay bills every weekday, looking forward to the weekend, which always seems to end way too quickly. Before you know it, you’re just…..surviving. Day to day, year to year, and slowly but surely, your relationship gets stale.
But I’m here to tell you...don’t get caught up!
If you’re feeling like your marriage and life as a whole has gotten blah and you no longer look forward to the newness of every day, week, and year, pump the brakes and have a vision board date night together. Planning your vision for your future as a family is guaranteed to help you connect and and help you re-evaluate where your lives are headed. Couple goals are super important to the growth of your relationship, and the both of you as individuals.
1. Goals keep you focused on the important things in life.
When you first got married, each of you had dreams for yourselves and for your future together. What happened to those dreams? Have you been actively working on them, or have you gotten caught up in survival mode?
Doing a vision board together will bring you and your spouse back to the basics of your lives-and your marriage. The most important things in life are your relationships with the people you love. Doing a vision board together will help you get intentional about putting first things first and making sure it stays that way every day.
2. Goals help you make the most of each moment.
When you don’t have a clear focus, you take on a lot of different responsibilities. All those little extra things may be taking valuable time and energy away from the things you really want to achieve in your life. When you do your vision board, talk about the top 3 priorities for your marriage and family. As you make more time (and money) for those things, you have to cut out all the unnecessary stuff. This will leave you free to make lots of progress in your lives and get rid of all the fluff that you only think you need.
3. Goals challenge you to keep growing.
No one wants to be in a stale marriage, but every couple has spent some time in the dead zone where it feels like you’re just existing as housemates, but you don’t have to stay there! Getting together regularly to update your vision board and talk about your progress will keep you accountable for working on those goals (and yourself) every day. As you become a better version of yourself, growing and learning, the quality of your marriage will get enhanced too. That’s the beauty of growth-you bring something to the table in every area of your life. Your focus on your goals will make your life better because you’ll be actively working on your family, not just for your family.
At some point every couple falls into survival mode where life becomes all about bills, debt payments, your careers, and raising the kids. Your vision board date night will get you out of that rut and get you back on track. Re-visit the dreams and goals you originally had when you got married, or had last year even. Think about where you want your family to be in a 1 year, 5 years, and even 10 years. Think far ahead, then figure out what things you want to tackle this year.
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